Sometimes you just need to keep yourself interested. It’s worth it. What have you been wanting to do? To make? To say?

You’ve been through a lot. You have a lot of potential.

your friends can be your parents

your parents can be your friends

your siblings can be your parents

you can be your parent

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IYKYK. There’s no cure for it. But therapy helps you live with it more constructively. It’s hard. You can’t make those string ends meet because they never will. It’s natural for your mind to keep wanting them to meet - it means you have humanity. Know you’re not alone. More people than you’d like to think are moving day to day with it too.

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The great destroyer that sucks it allll in there.

Countless lives have been lost, to trying to fill that giant gaping void in others. No one else can fill it because it’s endless. No one is capable of loving you that much, they could throw themselves in, and sacrifice their own life into the hole and it wouldn’t make you feel better. Everyone you know could do that, it wouldn’t make you feel better.

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It takes good people to recognise good people, it takes niche experts to recognise niche talent. When you’re around the right people, they’ll see that in you, recognise it, appreciate it and treasure it. This is not about finding people with the same opinions, this is about finding people that appreciate each other and see the potential in each other.

We all go through pivotal moments when life fundamentally changes. Loss of a loved one, loss of a dream, war, earthquakes, losing the concept of having a guardian.

Sometimes life changes so many times that you don’t recognise it. Like a slice of floppy Swiss cheese, you’re driving through a tunnel without knowing when it ends, trying to stay on the wheel.

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Making the most of what you have available is your job. Stop complaining about resources and restraints. Just do the best you can with what’s available.

Start where you are. It’s all you can do.

For whoever needs to hear this today. It’s ok to expect and demand it. We can normalise seeking objective fairness, normalise considering what’s best for the group rather than the individual. Normalise expecting “impartial and just treatment or behaviour without favouritism or discrimination.”

With a sense of fairness, society has a stronger structure.

No this is not mental health advice. See a professional for that. A lot of us never learned that we have the right to prioritise our own happiness. So we learnt to find happiness in the approval of others. The tricky thing is, you’re the only one who can make you happy.

That giant hole that we’ve all known at some point, that great destroyer that sucks it allllll up in there. There’s no one in the world who could love you enough to fill it. Lifetimes of time and energy from loved ones have been thrown into it and not filled it. We can’t fill the void in each other no matter how much it feels like you need that to be the answer. We all go through this at some point, some more than others.

That freaking hole is endless unless you first want to, and then figure out how to, build it from the ground up, be aware of it, understand the source of the issue and find a sense of compassion towards yourself and those things that created the hole, to change your self talk and behavioural patterns. It takes time, work, self-awareness, it’s constant, and it’s totally worth it.

Learning to make yourself happy is such a skill. It starts with little steps, understanding yourself, listening to the little voice, prioritising pleasure. Listen to some podcasts, find some examples, take a walk.

We’re not born assholes, and in general aren't assholes. We just get defensive or hurt, or feel unheard, so act like assholes sometimes… or a lot of times.

You've done it too. Doesn't mean you have to be nice to repeated assholes though.

Have some perspective. Don’t be a dick. It’s not all about you. Who needs something more than you?

We’re also not great at knowing what will make us happy. Sometimes what you need isn’t what you want. Sometimes what will make you happiest isn’t what you want.

Not always the way. But, sometimes it’s a needed reminder. To carry on, because that’s all we can do anyway. Might as well enjoy it and find amusement in it. To turn off the monkey mind. To snap out of it. To feel a bit more ok.

We’re here. Living in arguably the best circumstances of all time. It is what it is. It’s probably much better than it could be. It’s probably worse than it could be.

We have the moment and our attention. To notice things in those around us, to actually look into their eyes, to be playful, to take in our surroundings and wonder at the small things.

It’s pretty wild we’re a conscious collection of cells, in a mainly vapid universe, and that we all exist at the same time.

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